Choosing Forgiveness
Connie Erwin, LPC-MHSP / Individual and Marriage Counselor

Clarifying
Part 1

1 Tell your story …

2 Identify who you are most upset with and why … 

3 Identify specifically what this injury has cost you…

4 Identify your feelings …

Experiencing
Part 2

5 Allow yourself to own your feelings and give yourself permission to feel them...

6 Consider how you are choosing to interpret this story? What are you allowing it to say about your life and who you are? 

Reframing
Part 3

7 Explore the perspective of the offender.  

8 What part if any did you contribute to the injury?

9 What choices are you still in control of? What are the consequences of your choices… for yourself and for those around you?

 10 What positive things have you learned from this experience?

It's one thing to say "I forgive you" but sometimes actually doing it can be another story. At times the task is so overwhelming you find yourself thinking... how will I do this?  If you would like help exploring and processing a forgiveness issue please give me a call today at 423-827-7872.